I Challenge You To This

One of my favorite memory growing up was volunteering in elementary school. Why would anyone volunteer during their summer vacation? Well you see, the school that I attended had their grades rotate summer vacation. I was a 4th grader that year. The reason I volunteered during my summer was because of a crush. Yes, I signed my vacation away because I wanted to see my crush and because we rotate summer vacation that made it possible for me to see him. Now that I think about it, it was so silly. What did you expect? That’s not what was memorable, no, it was what I discovered that summer.

My family and I moved to the United States when I was 6 years old. I started school in first grade. I didn’t get to experience kindergarten like every other kid. I don’t know the order of the rainbow. I still don’t do this day. I just color it the way I want it.  The first time when I was introduced to kindergarten was when I volunteered that summer. I found out that they had this thing as, ” snack time”. 

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I found it so amazing! Who came up with this idea? Forget the crush, because I only  saw a glimpse of him in the morning. I loved snack time every day. That was the best summer I had volunteering.

Thinking back that was when I was introduced to Red Vines. Red Vines is different from Liquorice. I am sorry but Red Vines is better.

It’s sad how time flies so fast. When we were younger we wanted to grow up fast. Now that were older, we wish we could slow time down and stay young. Well at least that’s what I think for myself. It’s almost the end of 2018 already and I feel as if it flew by too fast. I did not make enough memorable memories. I wish I could of done more and given more, spend more time with the ones I love and take more pictures; not selfies.

Even when we know that we take time for granted, we still do it. We get caught up in life and everything else. We forget about how precious time is until it’s too late, until the end of the year. I am guilty of that.

Definitely acknowledge that fact and better yourself from it. I will. I’ll spend more of my time adding value to my life. I will smile more. I will laugh more. I will take more pictures that are not selfie! I will blog more. It’s easy to be lazy. It’s a challenge to blog every day.

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Whats one of your favorite memory? Do you take time for granted too even when you try not to? It’s okay because we are human and we are constantly learning and making mistakes. What will you do to add more value to your life? What are you not doing enough that you will be doing more of? I challenge you to challenge yourself to end your 2018 more valuable than before. Okay?~

Looking forward,

FearlessKay 

 

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Sunday Thought

I honestly think I would be happy with working a 8 hour shift for the rest of my life while aiming for retirement of course. There is nothing wrong with that thought.

Don’t get me wrong. I have big dreams and big goals. I want to be successful in business. I want to be, not to sound snobby or anything but, rich. Who doesn’t ? Money makes the world go round. Money is a currency that is forever moving and never stays in one spot for too long. That’s why they say money comes and goes like the river flow. I think that’s how it goes. You need money to buy food which is essential to survive. You money to buy gas which is also essential to if you need to drive to work to earn money to buy food for you and your family.

I see people having that amount of money to live comfortably and I too would like that.

But if I can’t achieve that not because I didn’t want to but because I chose something else. This is where people judge and use psychological reasonings. There is no right and no wrong on how you see it. This is simply me and what I see.

I would be happy living off of a job I enjoy. I would be happy with the drive to and from work everyday. I would make sure that the driving distance is not too long and too short. I love driving with the windows down and wind blowing my cheeks. When I get older this might change. I would be happy living with just having enough money to buy sweets on the side for my cravings. I would enjoy life as it is. Simple as I want it to be.

I won’t settle for less than I deserve. I will work hard for my way of simplicity. I may not drive a fast fancy car but that’s oKay. I rather admire the beauty and cherish it than own it.

Ultimately if you are happy where you are at, then that’s all that matters. If you are miserable with how it is then do something to get out of it.

Everyone’s simplicity is different. Everyone’s wants and needs are different. If my blog gets no views that’s fine with me. Only I can see my progress from scratch and that is something I can be proud of.

Imagine yourself 5 to 10 years from now. Where will you be? I know where I will be. I’ll be living my vision of simplicity.

Who knows I’m always learning and always pouring myself with new things around me. Maybe my vision of simplicity will change.

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Need a laugh? Do this.

Maybe this is too personal but what the hey! The other day in the shower I was scrubbing the bottom of my foot with a bar of soap, to my amazement I was very ticklish there. I normally rub one foot on top of the other to clean my soles but I decided to take them head on that night. I was giggling in an odd way which is was weird. I did the same on the other side and same results. I discovered that my left foot is more sensitive than my right foot. So…

If you ever find yourself in a position where you just need a good laugh and you happen to be in the shower, do this. Take a bar of soap and rub it on the bottom of you foot. Then do it to other side and figure out which one is more sensitive. Laugh your heart out until you can smile genuinely again. Breathe and remember the positive and do not stress on the negative. You got this.
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Have an amazing day like a unicorn! Until next time!

HOW TO HAVE A BETTER DAY BY DOING THIS 1 TIP, NO IT IS NOT COFFEE.

The law of attraction basically states, whatever we think will become our reality. For instance if you can see yourself happy then that will put you in the state where you are already happy and then it comes alive. If the opposite,  same results.

We do not always wake up on the right side of the bed. Sleepless nights, tossing and turning, having cheating girlfriends or boyfriends in our dreams equals waking up pretty upset. Then we allow ourselves to take it with us through the day. Someone will becoming annoying even if they are not. Because in your mind set you have already decided that you started out with a not so good morning now it will be a not so good day.  A word to the wise, there is a way to always have a good day.

Try this suggestion and do not just do it for one day. Do it everyday. I challenge you to. It is super simple and super easy plus it is free. You ready for it? This is what I want you to do.

  1. Get a sticky note or a piece of paper where you can write on.
  2. Write, ” Start each day with a thankful heart.”
  3. Stick it where you can see it every morning.
  4. Do it, then repeat.

A thankful heart; for everything that you already have, for where you are in life  right this minute, you are thankful for them all. (Saying it out loud is also a plus). Your attitude and  view on life will change.

Thanksgiving is just around the corner. This time of year we tell others what we are thankful for and so on. Why wait once a year? Start everyday with a thankful heart. Generate that positive vibrance, let it spread and attract more positivity into your life. It is not hard to do. I can do it, and if you have read my previous blogs it is hard. Therefore you can do it too. (Smiley Face). You got this. (High Five)

“I am thankful for everything I am and for everything I have. I accept and will embrace life.” 

 

Have an amazing like a unicorn day.

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When You Do Not Know What To Do Next, Do These 3 Things.

 

Ever feel like there is no hope? Like you will not have enough money to pay for your bills next month?

*Raises hand* Yes, this is me again. 

You do not know me and I do not know you other than what we put on the internet so what the heck. It’s not like you will ever knock on my door or walk up to me and say, “Hey your Kay right? I read your blog and this is my opinion.”  The chances of that will be microscopic. So again, what the heck!

I am crashing and burning. Not literally but you know what I mean. I do not know how I am going to pay for my bills next month. I have calculated how much I need to have in order to pay everything and my day job pay check is not going to cut it. So heck yes I am stressing as F***K!  Here I thought I was going to make enough money just so I can get by. Plan was to keep working a 9 to 5 job and blog on the side to make money. It is not easy. Via the internet you only get to see the glory and success, not the struggle. So what am I going to do?

  1. Keep working at my 9 to 5 job and try to find another job. If you have a job and your in money problems, do not quit your job. Just because the next month looks super gloomy. I am not going to quit! I refuse to quit. I will keep working, keep blogging, keep trying to find other methods to pay my bills. Maybe I will start selling my gently worn clothes? Teach someone  how to read prescriptions written by doctors? Who knows? I also like taking photos, maybe I will sell them too. Bottom line; do not give up just because it seems hopeless. 
  2. Keep waking up early at 5am. It only takes 21 days to make a habit stay. It’s been 6 days since I started this challenge for myself. We always say there is not enough time in the day to do everything. Well then why not wake up earlier? So i’ve been tracking my daily challenge on instagram . It’s always nice to have someone to do it with; keeps you motivated. (Jordan). Waking up early gives me more time to blog. Every like, every follower, everything little counts and matters to me. Thank you to mzukowskiblog for liking and being my first follower. It really means a lot to me.  Bottom line; Wake up earlier. If you already do then great! Give yourself more time to hustle for your success. 

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3. Do not be a PEST-IT-MESSER (pessimist); me, when I am negative. It’s Saturday! I can simply stay home, cry and throw a tantrum because life is hard. No. The weather is 63 degrees and I live right by a park, which requires a fee to get in, I can simply walk in (hahaha evil laugh). I am going to enjoy this beautiful day and keep going after my goals even though everything is tumbling downward. Hard work pays  off for those who work hard for it. I know this blogging business wont happen over night. I have wholly accepted the fact that it may not even bring me anything other than the joy of putting my stuff out there and that is enough. I simply want to share my experience with those out there and maybe someone will gain something from it, even if they do not remember my blog name.

“However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.           Where there’s life, there’s hope.”- Stephen Hawking
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I will keep you posted internet. If  I am blogging from Starbucks wi-fi I will definitely share my experience with you. If you are reading this and you have an idea of how I can make  an extra income, feel free to comment below. I would love to hear them! Have an amazing day like a unicorn! (unicorn emoji)

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A story about a girl who learned to forgive herself. Yes, it’s me.

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Have you ever had something bad happen to someone close to you and you felt as if it was your fault, somehow in some way? You could have made a difference in it if you had only known? That gut feeling that you feel is guilt. Guilt has no mercy and it will devour you.

Back when I was younger ( I sound as if i’m really old) Something significant happened to someone very close to me. I don’t want to go into details because I don’t have the right to share her story without her permission. I can only share my side of the story, what I went through, and how I found forgiveness in myself.

At that time I was in a difficult situation myself but, I was there physically with her, I didn’t know,  I had no clue, I couldn’t tell that she needed me, I couldn’t see the signs, I couldn’t hear her cry for help, and for attention. I didn’t see it so I blamed myself.  She smiled and laughed everyday like she would normally do. If I had known somehow and if I had noticed the signs, it could have turned out differently.

The aftermath; I built up a wall around her when I was with her, I was very protective, and I had let her down. I bottled it all up and it got the best of me.

I had a girls night out and I had a little to much to drink. When I got home, my girlfriend hugged me and I just started crying. I was sobbing, crying as if there was no tomorrow, I couldn’t speak, and  couldn’t tell her why I was crying. All I kept saying was, “I am sorry.” I kept apologizing and kept crying hysterically. At this point my boogers were all up on her and I had turned into a clown with black mascara down my cheeks.

I blamed myself for not knowing it, I blamed myself for it happening, I blamed myself and I cried many many many times. I kept asking myself if this and if that and if only I..so many ifs, but all were useless now. This feeling made me hate myself. ” It was my fault and I should have known.” 

It took me a very long time to forgive myself. The process was difficult, emotional, long and painful. There will always be a piece of me that feels as if it was my fault. But I have learned to forgive myself and to not let it get the best of me. “I never want to feel like this again.” I surrounded myself with my family and close friends. I took time off from work to put myself back together. I cherished the moments I was given and It made me appreciate things more. I cried less and less as I shared my emotions with my loved ones and they reminded me that it wasn’t my fault.

For those who are wondering, my friend is doing well now and I make sure to make every moment count. I pay more attention and listen more. I believe that having a strong supportive team is a must on this emotional journey.

If you were ever in a situation similar to mine or if you ( I pray that you will never) get into one, know this;

It is not your fault and you do not control anyone else’s actions other than yourself. I know that blaming yourself is what we do when someone close to us has been hurt, but don’t. I know its hard. Surround yourself with positive people that will listen to you and will remind you that it is not your fault. Crying helps too, So cry. Don’t hold back your emotions. Let them out so you don’t just burst out crying like me. The healing process will not happen overnight. It will take time to forgive yourself. I promise you, it will get a lot better.

 

Have an “amazing day like a unicorn!” -Eliza

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If you haven’t read my other blogs about self-love then please read it even if its for fun and also my little vent on being selfish in the right ways.